A Romantic Relationship Must Have Love Language
Love is the most powerful force in the universe. All that is required for love to flourish is that two people come together and create an atmosphere of deep, unconditional love. Love encompasses a broad spectrum of positive and negative emotional and physical states, from the highest sublime ideal of human connection, to the easiest, most natural form of bonding – simply enjoying the experience of being in each other’s company. In between these extremes are all of the relationships that exist in the world between people – the loving friendship, the ever-present romantic flirtation, the companionable partnership, the parental bond, and the family bond.
But what makes love even more powerful than these fleeting connections is the recognition that it is rooted in something much deeper and larger than human thoughts and feelings. It’s rooted in the simple fact that love is not a selfish act. People who love each other to see their partner as an extension of themselves. When love is experienced and expressed, it becomes the quality time together that people need to feel balanced and fulfilled in order to move forward in their lives. When this quality time together exists, we find that moving through life becomes less of a challenge and more of a pleasure – because we’re surrounded by people who love us and who are concerned about our well-being.
Two of the most fundamental forms of affection – physical affection and emotional affection – are the basis of romantic love. Physical affection is the most tangible manifestation of love and one of the most immediate ways people express love. In fact, the first impulse that people have when they meet another person is to kiss them. And while the physical expression of affection is a great way to express love, it does have some drawbacks. Namely, when the love is not reciprocated, it can lead to resentment and hurt feelings.
Emotional affection, on the other hand, is often the more passive form of love. We know it when we feel it, and we may even know the partner feeling it, but because this kind of love is more subtle and is not easily expressed, it gets more subtle over time. As a result, we don’t always recognize our partner’s emotions or sense their connection with us – but then again, when we do recognize their feeling, it is often more powerful than the physical contact we share.
Of course, physical touch can be very rewarding. In fact, physical touch is often the very beginning of romantic love, as it is the foundation for affection. But even physical touch can be negative. In fact, too much physical contact can turn the intimate moments of intimacy into mere spending time, and the romantic love that springs up is fleeting rather than enduring. So if we want to create a more enduring kind of intimacy, we need to pay more attention to emotional intimacy, which comes from experiencing and expressing our true feelings for another person.
To feel loved in a romantic relationship, we need to find a way to feel our partner’s love for us directly, rather than indirectly through their actions and words. This is where romance language enters the picture. Romance language involves being able to describe how you feel loved directly to your partner in words that they will understand. After you have developed this understanding, you can then use these words to convey your affection for your partner in a way that will actually make them feel loved – and not just receive a casual note of approval. With this secret weapon in your romantic arsenal, you can make your partner love you more than ever before!